Rosario/Rose/Bel is twenty. Student; Future Retarded Nurse (RN). has unfortunately stopped growing. Honda Civic. Laugh Out Loud. Dance. Travel. Wannabe Photographer. Love&God Believer. Dreams of her own Canon DSLR. Family, God, & Friends = Don't ever take it for granted.
your happy battle is over ma. thank you for bringing me up and for taking good care of me and my siblings while mom and dad was away. thank you for making me a God fearing person. I promise i will try to bring laughter wherever i can and forever, i will be a Lola's girl. i love you, till we meet again. April 28, 1:15pm.
Maturity Levels
There are so many different levels of maturity when it comes to the dating world; I’d like to say that I’m very mature when it comes down to it.
Level 1: Puppy Love
Kindergarten through high school. Little boys and little girls whispering to their friends, “OMG he’s so cute and cool; I wish he was my boyfriend! I hope he asks me to prom.” They have no idea how a relationship works out and probably have never even heard of the word “date” or have gone on a legitimate “date.” They’ll hear from a friend of a friend that so-and-so is going to ask you out, so you decide to say yes to your friend who is going to pass the message to a friend of a friend of so-and-so so you and so-and-so can go out… how complicating. You say you’re in love at first sight and that you want to marry whoever your “date” is. You break up, you cry, you blog, you status update, you twitter, and you try to get any attention from the entire world to feel bad for you; and you don’t even realize that your personalities didn’t match in the first place… then you get over it the next day when the jock from the basketball team asks you out.
Level 2: The College Years
Exactly as the level says: the college years. So you’re over little boys and little girls and all their fake games and shallowness; you want a real love. You decide that you’re going to start dating people and getting to know them instead of falling in love at first sight… so you try really hard to impress the other person; you dress nice, you compose yourself, you act differently, and you change yourself so that this other person falls for you. In the end, you probably end up getting into a “long-term” relationship and the experience you gain is absolutely incomparable. You think, “so this is love?” Then priorities start to change, stresses from all over the place come at you because you’re transitioning into an “individual” person rather than a “dependent,” arguments start and break-ups happen. In the end, you wonder, “How could I give my all to someone and sacrifice so much to them but they don’t feel the same back?” You have to hate the other person in order to get over them. You have the mentality: It’s better to love and lost then to never of have loved at all right? Oh well, I have so many other things on my mind that I have to worry about… I don’t have time for a significant other; I’m fine being single and I’m not looking for anything serious.
Level 3: Welcome to the Real World
Post graduate dating and relationships. What can I say? It’s a level of maturity that is only reached through experience; experience that you gain from going through the first two levels of maturity. You date people, as in, you date more than one person. This is because dating is dating; it’s nothing serious. And not only that, you date someone a very long time before actually making it official. You want to make sure that you guys are compatible; no fakeness, no playing games, and no facades; you act like yourself and if it works out it works out and if it doesn’t then I’ll try my luck with someone else. There’s no hating if it doesn’t work because you realize that you’re over that phase and you completely understand that your personalities didn’t match. EVENTUALLY you’ll date someone a very long time, become official after being very sure of each other, become very serious, and transition into life partners.
I post this up because I’d like to say that I’m in the third level of maturity. Granted, I do date a lot and I hope for the best; but if it doesn’t work out I’m not going to sit down and cry my tears out all by myself. I’ve gone through the other two levels and I’m glad I’m at this state. And yes, you have to be on the same maturity level when dating in order for it to truly work out. It’ll be a long time before I find a life partner, but I most definitely enjoy dating and finding him.
Now I’m not saying that it’s not possible to go through all three levels with just one person; I have plenty of friends who are “high school sweethearts” and are doing great; but I’m sure they’ve grown their maturity levels significantly through each other.
Sit back and reflect, “What maturity level am I in right now?” Happy dating!
